It happened to me, she squashed my dream…
I could hardly contain myself, I was SO excited to share with her something I had been working on for weeks.
I had just come from the printers, where I picked up my brand new shiny business cards, and they had come out even better than I imagined. The best part about my cards was that it was my little proclamation to myself and to the whole world that I was getting ready to do something amazing.
After years of being a recording artist in the entertainment industry, I decided that I wanted to become a motivational speaker to inspire others to live their dreams! I was living mine and I felt like I was in a great position to make a big difference and share a powerful message. Putting it on a business card felt like the first step towards making a new dream become a reality.
I imagined myself being asked to speak to groups, being interviewed on television and radio, even speaking at schools. This was not hard to imagine because I had been doing this stuff as a singer already, the only difference was instead of singing I’d be speaking.
When my friend drove up, she had barely gotten out of her car when I quickly handed her one of the business cards. I stood there with a big, proud smile on my face awaiting her enthusiastic feedback. Here’s what she said: “They look nice, but what qualifies you to do this?”
Ouch! My heart sank and I had to hold back the tears. I remember quickly responding “oh it was just an idea I had, something I thought I’d like to do in the future.” We went on to talk about a few other things and she drove away.
I got back in my car, drove up the hill to the casino where I was headed to host a big event. It was hard to think about doing something fun when my heart was just broken and my dream squashed. I felt as though the wind had totally been taken out of my sails. I had been so hopeful just a few minutes earlier, imagining my incredible success, and now I felt completely deflated.
Later that night, when I got home, I put the 500 business cards in a drawer and never showed them to anyone again. Afterall, maybe she was right….what qualified me?
Although I remember this as if it were yesterday, it was actually over twenty years ago.
Looking back now I could tell myself things like “I shouldn’t have listened to her; I should have done it anyway. I should have gotten other opinions….why did I let her squash my dream?? Imagine where I’d be today if I had pursued what I wanted!”
But instead of feeling resentful, I’m now saying to myself “I’m so grateful that I wrote my dream on that business card!” Even though I stored those cards in a drawer and years later threw all but one of them away, what I realize is this: my dream was written on the card and more importantly, written on my heart. The dream never got squashed, it was merely incubating in my heart until the right time.
Today I am finally realizing my 20-year old dream. I am now making a living speaking, teaching and motivating women to follow their dreams. I get to help them create, launch and build their dream businesses. I feel like I’m right where I’m supposed to be at just the right time and it’s even better than I could have ever imaged!
I continue to write all my dreams down so they are recorded on paper as well as on my heart. I trust that the Universe knows when those dreams are ready to become reality. It’s exciting to think that writing them down can actually help them come true.
I will always remember the incident with my friend, but I don’t hold it against her. I never even told her how what she said made me feel, for some reason I didn’t feel it was necessary. I guess my wiser self somehow knew better.
My hope for you is that you write down all your goals and dreams. Because when you do, I believe they are also written on your heart and at the right time, will become a reality! I believe that we are given dreams for a reason, they aren’t to be ignored and nobody can steal them from us!
But there is also a moral to the story (with age comes wisdom!):
- Your dreams, like newborn babies, need gentle tending. DO NOT share them with family. (Unless you’re blessed with an incredibly supportive family, hold your dreams close to your heart. Out of all my family members, there are only two who I share my dreams with, my husband and my mom, they are my biggest cheerleaders)
- If you do share them with friends, only share with those who can be trusted to inflate your sails rather than deflate them. (Even if they mean well and are just trying to protect you, because they don’t really understand the reason behind your dreams, they might say things to hurt you unintentionally like my friend did).
- While, the Universe can be trusted to read what is in your heart and nudge you towards your path, dream manifestation really accelerates when we ask for help. (We aren’t meant to be on life’s journey alone. Seek out mentors to guide you on your path. THEN, with a little bit of Right Timing, your dreams DO become reality!)
May you hold your dreams close to your heart and at the right time, see them come true!
To your dreams and success,
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