I had a fear of public speaking! Anytime I had to get up in front of people, my heart would start racing, my voice would get shaky and I absolutely hated it. I couldn’t wait to finish saying what I needed to say and sit down. Can relate?
I grew up dreaming of being a singer. I loved the idea of entertaining and I loved to sing but FEAR stopped me from following that dream. Little by little, over time I started pushing through my fears, with the encouragement of my mom and close friends who saw my potential. I then I finally started singing in public even though it was still really scary.
Once I started stepping outside my comfort zone and practicing, I actually started to like it. Not the actual being in front of people but the applause that came with doing a good job. Later I formed a band and even recorded three music CD’s. (Well 1 cassette as well but I don’t talk about that because it dates me) ha ha.
My Secret? What I found was that the more “FUN” I had when I was on stage, the easier it was! If I got on stage with the intention of entertaining and engaging over singing every note just right, I actually had more fun, the audience had a better time and I sold more of my CD’s when I got off stage.
What does this story have to do with speaking?
Well today, if I got on stage to speak with the intention of impressing my audience and getting every part of my talk just right, instead of engaging them, entertaining and delivering value, I would be just as nervous as I was in my earlier years. I too get nervous before speaking.
What calms my nerves and allows me to do a great job, even being told by audiences that I’m an awesome speaker, is that I take the stage with the intention of connecting, teaching, serving and having a great time!
I even say “If I’m not having fun, I’m going home.” I know that it’s important for me to feel comfortable in order to deliver a talk.
I want to share with you my three “BIGGEST TIPS” to overcoming your nerves and speaking effectively (which by the way also helps you attract more customers, make more sales and grow your business)
#1 Be Prepared! Dale Carnegie says “Only the prepared speaker deserves to be confident”. I see it all the time with clients. When they first come to me they
can be very insecure and nervous about speaking. But once we prepare what they are going to say and practice a few times, the transformation is amazing.
#2 Have Fun! (Of course this is my Biggest Tip) Nobody likes a boring speaker and these days people want to be entertained. And the good news is, it’s not hard to make your talk entertaining. You don’t even have to be a comedian or be funny. You can grab a funny or entertaining story off the internet and strategically share it within your talk. Funny quotes and statistics work just as well.
# 3 Have an Easy Yes Offer! This means, give people a way to learn more from you after you talk. Not only will this help you build your business by gaining new customers but it will help you feel less nervous because you won’t feel like you need to share everything you know in one talk. (btw, sharing everything you know can be super boring for an audience). You can share your best and most entertaining stuff and invite interested people to take you up on your offer to learn more.
Learning to speak well really is a skill. You can’t learn just by hearing how to speak but you need to actually start speaking. The best thing you can do to overcome your nerves is start out slow and build on your success.
WHAT CAN YOU DO? TAKE ACTION!
Next time you are at a networking event, prepare ahead of time a few “sound bites” about your business and practice. Then when someone asks you what you do, or if you have to do a “30 second commercial” or “elevator pitch” you’ll sound like a pro.
As a matter of fact, if you’d like a “FREE” copy of my secret formula for an awesome elevator pitch CLICK HERE
Speaking doesn’t have to be scary, actually you can make it a lot of fun. And to be honest, if you are a coach, health practitioner, realtor, advisor or any kind of business owner, you really do need to be able to speak well to promote your business. So why not make it fun!
Nobody knows your business as well as you do and your potential customers are waiting to hear from you!
Here’s to your speaking success,
Julia Glyde – “Making Speaking Fun, Easy and Profitable”